Men and women who meet each other today usually have not grown up with each other and do not know each other very well. There are some exceptions to this, but those who eventually become husbands and wives don’t start out in life knowing each other and usually their families don’t know each other either. This means that there has to be a period of time for the man to get to know the woman and vice versa. This is usually done today via what is called dating.
WHAT IS DATING?
Let’s start by analyzing what dating truly means. With the recent development in our world there seem to be a wide range of perspectives on the subject of dating and this is why we would emphatically consider all opinion. The Advanced English dictionary consider dating as a form of romantic courtship typically between two individuals with the aim of assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or as a spouse.
Well, there seem to be alot of people who don’t believe that, hence they have derived their own definition in this subject. It’s a free world? They say. Some say it’s only an avenue for them to know their partners sexual capacity others say it’s an avenue to learn their likes and dislikes. But I believe these opinions have been derived because of the western culture and their exposition towards the true nature of ‘Love’. That being said, you can as well agree with me that the answer to “if Dating is a Sin” depends on one’s definition about the word – Dating.
So, is dating then a Sin? Let’s find out!
WHAT DOES THE BIBLE SAY ABOUT DATING?
I would like us to see beyond the word dating in this context because it’s only but a starting event. I think the right question should be, what do we hope to achieve through dating? And for a man and woman who’s about to get married, I believe it should be more than pleasing each other sexually or testing each other’s sexual skill. So what does the Bible have to say about this? Why do we even have to date in the first place. A quick look at Genesis 2:24 will answer all of that question. It states that “therefore, shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.”. O’ wish you read that! The Bible didn’t say “so shall a man leave his father’s house and cleave to his wife?” no! The Bible says “therefore, shall a man leave…”. The word ‘therefore’ is used to tell us that there is an actual reason for such activity to take place. And we find the reason in Genesis 2:21 (And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof) and in vs 23 see what Adam said after God had formed eve (And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man.). The first point here is that Adam recognised his wife. O’ I wish you got that again. The Bible is not saying Adam knew his wife (asin had sexual desires and inteecourse before he could tell that she was his wife. No! God brought eve before Adam and Adam recognised her right away. So, Point number one: Dating is not a good technique to know who is and who’s not your wife! As painful as that sound, it’ is the truth. If she’s your wife, you’ll know the moment you see her as long as you are a man of prayer and you have an intimate walk with God. The Holy Spirit teaches us all thing. We have an Holy unction. We are not immortalized by the nature of this world. That’s what God was trying to tell us in that scripture. If you read further in Genesis from chapter 4 and verse 1, the Bible said “And Adam knew Eve his wife; and she conceived, and bare Cain” Bible said “. That’s the pattern for a Godly marriage. It’s not sex before marriage, it’s marriage before sex. If you must date any Lady in anyway you must realize that dating is not an avenue to honing your sexual skills. She’s not a test and run machine for goodness sake.
THE 21ST CENTURY DISPOSITION TOWARDS DATING
Today what people have come to know dating as is only but a system whereby they share their feelings for each other through close body contact, kissing, and heavy romance that is quite forbidded. It’s only but an act of Sin. Meanwhile, the Bible clearly states in Hebrews 13:4, “Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” God clearly forbids the act of dating to derive sexual satisfaction. It is considered sin before God. I belive a Christian relationship between partners that are about to get married should be decent and holy. You’re both going to get married anyway, so why defile the bed before the right time?
However, if your exposition towards dating is only but an avenue to know each other and see how you can tread the right path then its encouraging and your dating isn’t wrong. If your partner feels bad about you rejecting his/her desire for sex then it’s most likely he’s not the right partner. I’m sorry to say, but if he’s the right partner the he would wait till you’re both married. Marriage is not an avenue for sexual satisfaction. You must stay true to God.
Well, it seems I have been doing all the talking, now I want to hear from you. What’s your take on this subject?
